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Tumblr
I'm thinking about switching to tumblr. It seems that it is the better blog honestly. They have an app for my phone and my bestows are both on there :P
I'll let you know for sure later though.
I'll let you know for sure later though.
75 Lessons That Must Be Learned In A Relationship
MIA CARMEL
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75 Lessons that MUST be Learned in Relationships
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Don't force an attraction.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.
Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
Always put yourself and your happiness first.
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.
Be honest and upfront.
Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).
If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).
There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them...flee.
You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself -- double-standard.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!
Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.
If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.
Actions speak louder than words.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.
Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the No.1 person in your life.
Love is a verb ...
Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.
If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else.
You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complementary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.
Never become your man's "therapist".
When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the actions.
A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it - but it takes two to make it work.
Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted.
Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with you, You cant force a man to hang out with you.
If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
Never move into his mother's house.
Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.
Never co-sign for a man.
Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
Never let a man mess up your credit.
When it's time to let go; let go.
Good men should be treated like good men.
Don't play games.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status, are important.
Never date a guy who wears color contact lens.
is thinking +
75 Lessons that MUST be Learned in Relationships
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Don't force an attraction.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.
Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
Always put yourself and your happiness first.
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.
Be honest and upfront.
Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).
If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).
There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them...flee.
You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself -- double-standard.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!
Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.
If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.
Actions speak louder than words.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.
Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the No.1 person in your life.
Love is a verb ...
Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.
If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else.
You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complementary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.
Never become your man's "therapist".
When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the actions.
A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it - but it takes two to make it work.
Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted.
Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with you, You cant force a man to hang out with you.
If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
Never move into his mother's house.
Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.
Never co-sign for a man.
Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
Never let a man mess up your credit.
When it's time to let go; let go.
Good men should be treated like good men.
Don't play games.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status, are important.
Never date a guy who wears color contact lens.
Screw Up
Im the master at screwing stuff up. Why can't I just leave my mouth shut? Hopefully it's just my imagination.
Winter Break
It's finally Christmas break for me. Of course, tomorrow won't feel like it. I have to be at work at from 8-2. No plans after though so someone should make me some. :) I promise to start blogging regularly again now that I'll have the time. For now, it's time to sleep so I'm not a grouch at work in the morning. Goodnight all!
Monday, December 6, 2010
Sunday, December 5, 2010
Friday, December 3, 2010
Ready For Rest
It's been an interesting past few days. I'm exhausted and just ready for the semester to be over so I can sleep in and catch up on rest.
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
Tarot Card
So, my tarot card for today was pretty accurate. You definitely want to stay away from me today. I don't know if it's because I'm sick, pmsing, or just at my wits end but I can't do it anymore. I'm so sick of being lonely. I want someone who will be there for me. Who will at least answer my texts when we can't be together. I'm so sick of getting my hopes up or start thinking that things are going good for it to all just come to a halt. So here it is... I done with all you losers who don't treat girls right. I've been burned too many times to put up with anymore of your bullshit! I want a real man. A guy who I'm not going to have to worry about cheating, falling in love with someone prettier, or just up and leaving without a reason. A guy who treats me like the princess that I am, a guy who calls me beautiful and puts me first.
So if you're out there, don't be afraid to step up because I'm waiting.
So if you're out there, don't be afraid to step up because I'm waiting.
Are You Going to Kiss Me or Not
Let me tell you. When I got in the car this morning, country songs about love found and love lost were the last type of songs I was wanting to hear. I'm feeling pretty lonely today and didn't want music to remind me of that. However, when I heard this song I couldn't really change the channel. There was something about it, like it was saying something that I've wanted to say many times.
Are You Going to Kiss Me or Not by Thompson Square
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GRJAV4YF1cI
Are You Going to Kiss Me or Not by Thompson Square
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GRJAV4YF1cI
This Week
I've had a great past few days. I've been hanging with friends in the evening and although it sucks that we can't seem to all get together at once I've a blast. I've had great food. A blast with true friends. I've made a fool of myself. I've probably ruined a good thing somehow. But hey, I guess you only live once. At least that's what Emily reminded me that I told her a few months ago. You can't be afraid and you can't hold onto the past. The best thing to do is to put yourself out there. Your whole self. Sure you leave yourself wide open for disappointment, heartache, and everything else but if you don't put your whole self out there then how will you ever find what you're truly looking for? So, I guess I need to follow my own advice for now.
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
It's A Bit Cold Out
Winter is upon us. It didn't get above 40 today :( I don't mind too much because winter means snow. The part I do mind is that it was in the 60s when we got back home on Sunday and yesterday was warm too. Now it's not. I was spoiled last week by my grandparents incredibly warm stove. Now I'm back to my 68 degree house and have cold hands and feet. Anyone want to cuddle?
Nerves
Sometimes, I wonder why I get so nervous around guys. It even happens with guys I've known for a bit. Put me in a room with just me and him though and I start to say stupid stuff or nothing at all. I'm sure that probably changes guys opinions on me. Just hang with me for a bit though... It gets better. Lol.
It's a crazy busy week so I prob won't post much.
It's a crazy busy week so I prob won't post much.
Wednesday, November 24, 2010
Beautiful Virginia
Good morning!
I'm in Virginia now. We got here yesterday evening. Honestly I'm sick of being in a car but we rarely do this anymore so I'm making the best of it. The views of the country side alone make it worth it. Oh how I've missed the east coast. Back home we don't have anything that is as old as what we have here. For example, Culpeper court was founded in the late 1700's. I wish we were here longer so I would have the chance to visit some of my favorite battlefields and scenic views. Not to worry though, just the views overlooking the field and woods will tide me over for now. I'll post a pic when I get back home.
I'm in Virginia now. We got here yesterday evening. Honestly I'm sick of being in a car but we rarely do this anymore so I'm making the best of it. The views of the country side alone make it worth it. Oh how I've missed the east coast. Back home we don't have anything that is as old as what we have here. For example, Culpeper court was founded in the late 1700's. I wish we were here longer so I would have the chance to visit some of my favorite battlefields and scenic views. Not to worry though, just the views overlooking the field and woods will tide me over for now. I'll post a pic when I get back home.
Saturday, November 20, 2010
An Adventure
It's Saturday morning and we're currently resting in the truck at a rest area. The fog is getting thicker and everyone is sleeping but me. I've always had a hard time sleeping in a car but cram me in the back seat and stop the truck and there is no way I'm even trying. My legs are asleep and my butt is numb but once we start going again we only have about 2 hours left. We didn't stop for the night in St. Louis. We did have an adventure though. About 100 miles into the trip the drivers side tire on the car dolley blew out. And I mean it blew out. Hey guess what... The spare was flat. We unhitched the dolley and went off to find some air. Then we had to back track almost 10 miles to finally get to a ramp to turn back around. We get back to the car and dad can't get it up enough to get the jack under it. So we had to hitch it back up and go from there. The whole ordeal set us back about 2 hours and left us with no spare tire.
Thankfully we were all able to joke about it all later in the night.
Oh and guess what... I even drove the truck pulling the dolley and car at some point on this trip. :) Just another thing I can add to my driving accomplishments. Lol
Thankfully we were all able to joke about it all later in the night.
Oh and guess what... I even drove the truck pulling the dolley and car at some point on this trip. :) Just another thing I can add to my driving accomplishments. Lol
Friday, November 19, 2010
Thanksgiving Vacation
Today is the day. My vacation finally starts. In under an hour we should be on our way North. As a northerner, I'm so freaking excited!! I probably won't post much. No wifi at my grandparents in Virginia.
Have a great Thanksgiving everyone!!
Have a great Thanksgiving everyone!!
Thursday, November 18, 2010
Moving On
Yesterday I took another step towards moving on. I needed to do it a long time ago but couldn't let go. To some it may seem small, but you have to remember that it was a long distance relationship. Pictures were a big part of it all. Anyway, I deleted all but 2 pictures I had on my phone of him. Sure I will probably always care for and have feelings for him but they won't be the same or a's strong. I'm excited for the next step in my life. For my next relationship. I've learned a lot over the last 4 years. I've grown a lot over that time too. I know what I want with my life now and this time it is realistic... I think.
Spring Break on the Mind
Dearest friends,
I have decided that I want to go somewhere for spring break. I was thinking of somewhere on the east coast but probably not a crowded Florida beach. I'd love to go to D.C. But I'm sure no one else will want to spend a week in there. If anyone wants to join me and has ideas I'm totally open to anywhere. :). Let me know!!
Love Always,
Sami
I have decided that I want to go somewhere for spring break. I was thinking of somewhere on the east coast but probably not a crowded Florida beach. I'd love to go to D.C. But I'm sure no one else will want to spend a week in there. If anyone wants to join me and has ideas I'm totally open to anywhere. :). Let me know!!
Love Always,
Sami
Stress, Work, and Vacation
I am so ready for vacation. I'm sick of work and sick of school. When I get back I am seriously looking for a new job. Last night I had a dream that I got fired because I lost it. I can have a temper at times and I'm so sick of bullshit and drama. Well a customer was asking retarded questions on the phone and I was getting annoyed so I started yelling at them and through the phone. Um... Ya that can't happen in real life and if I'm dreaming about work causing me stress then it's obviously causing me too much stress in real life.
Stress is something I need to learn to control better. I'm 20 and have the stress of a person with a professional job and family to support. At this rate I won't live long enough to have those things. So my New Years goal (yes I know it's early) is going to cut my stress level by t least half. Haha let's see how long that lasts though.
Stress is something I need to learn to control better. I'm 20 and have the stress of a person with a professional job and family to support. At this rate I won't live long enough to have those things. So my New Years goal (yes I know it's early) is going to cut my stress level by t least half. Haha let's see how long that lasts though.
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